Bride vs. Florist -- You be the judge

My husband alerted me to this bit of news:

Fuming NYC bride sues florist over flower color

Lawsuit seeks more than $400,000 over color of hydrangeas

(Associated Press) NEW YORK - The wedding was lovely, except for the flowers: They were the wrong color.

So says the bride, Elana Glatt, who was so upset that she sued the florist and alleged breach of contract.

She says Posy Floral Design in Manhattan substituted pastel pink and green hydrangeas for the dark rust and green ones she had specified for 22 centerpieces.

Not only that, she alleges that the hydrangeas were wilted and brown, and arranged in dusty vases without enough water.

“The use of predominantly pastel centerpieces had a significant impact on the look of the room and was entirely inconsistent with the vision the plaintiffs had bargained for,” Glatt, a lawyer, said in the lawsuit, filed on behalf of herself, her husband, David, and her mother-in-law, Tobi Glatt, who paid for the flowers.

The flowers cost $27,435.14. The lawsuit asks for more than $400,000 in restitution and damages.

Stamos Arakas, the florist, said that he and his wife, Paula, tried to match the color of the hydrangeas with a picture Glatt had given them, but explained to her that the colors might not look the same.

“My father used to tell me, ‘Don’t deal with the lawyers,” Arakas said. “Maybe he was right, God bless his soul.”

I can kind of see the bride's point if the florist actually made no attempt to contact her about changing the flowers and if they were brown and wilting. A full refund should be in order. On the other hand, nature is unpredictable and if the florist has a clause in the contract saying they can substitute flowers, then the bride should have read the fine print more carefully. What outrages me is paying $27K just for flowers and then suing for more than $400K!

Like Him or Not

Dr. Phil has an opinion on EVERYTHING. Even wedding planning.

Taken from his site is this handy dandy little planning guide. Some useful and others... well, I'm not sure about. 'Loving every idea for 15 minutes' could end up taking about a year when it comes to weddings.

Avoiding Wedding Disasters-The process of planning a wedding can often damage friendships, lead to arguments with in-laws, shatter hopes and cause huge power struggles. Dr. Phil says that when you're preparing for your special day, don't forget what it's really all about. Below is his advice on avoiding wedding disasters.


Don't give others too much power.
Sometimes brides-to-be feel the need to please others to ensure that their special day is a success. Often, giving in to the whims of family and friends can lead to disaster. "If you give someone enough power to ruin your day, isn't that your choice?" Dr. Phil asks. Don't say, "I do," just to please someone else. Remember that it's your day to shine.



Don't become "Bridezilla."
If you're obsessing over every little tiny detail, thinking about it all day and having nightmares about it at night, you can lose sight of what really matters. Focus on the fact that it's a day about the two of you creating a bond and a union.



Learn to ask for and accept help from loved ones.
Don't be afraid to invite your closest friends and family to help with some of the planning. To allow others to be a part of it can add to the joy of the occasion.



Don't be a 'money bully' or the victim of one.
Mom and Dad may feel that since they're footing the bill for the ceremony, that they have a lot of say in the planning. This can result in a power struggle if the bride-to-be has conflicting ideas. Dr. Phil tells one mother of the bride, "If you're going to give the wedding, give it. Don't ransom it." He tells the bride-to-be, "I would get married in a gunny sack under a tree before I would let somebody blackmail me with the money for a wedding."



Start with a budget.
The average cost of a wedding in America is $22,000. Come up with a budget for the wedding and do your best to stick to it. It's important not to burden your union together by starting out completely broke or in debt.



Focus on the bride.
Upcoming nuptials can be a critical time, and sometimes misunderstandings arise when friends and family get too emotional about the wedding planning process. Dr. Phil says, "When somebody's getting married, everybody needs to say, 'It's their day, and if I need to step to the side and give them this day, then it's a gift that I'm going to give.'"



View your wedding as a rite of passage.
In societies and cultures throughout the world, weddings are not only celebrations, they also symbolize rites of passage from childhood to adulthood. Dr. Phil advises couples who are about to walk down the aisle to be more independent and to take control of their lives. "There's a point where you have to say, 'It's my wedding. It's the beginning of my life, and I'm going to do what feels good and right to me,'" says Dr. Phil.



Love every idea for 15 minutes!
Don't get so dead set on having things your way that you refuse to listen to outside advice on planning your wedding. Dr. Phil urges brides-to-be to love every idea for 15 minutes. "If at the end of that time, it's just full of holes, then OK," he says. "But at least give it a chance and really get excited about it for 15 minutes." If the other person has good intentions, weigh carefully what they have to say.



Take a break.
Declare some days wedding free, where discussing the wedding is off limits. Go out and have some fun, decompress, and remember why you fell in love with your partner to begin with. If you don't take some time off from the planning, you may not even enjoy the big day once it gets there.



Have a sense of humor about it.
Don't go into this with the expectation of perfection or you're guaranteed to be disappointed. Things may go wrong, and probably will. Remember to laugh about it. These are the memories and stories you will tell your grandchildren someday.



**Plan the marriage too.**
Don't forget that the wedding lasts one day, while the marriage lasts the rest of your life. Spend at least an equal amount of time planning the union that you and your partner hope to have for years to come. Discuss religion, children, careers, division of labor, in-laws and geography with your partner.



Shift your focus.
If your big day already occurred and it was a less-than-perfect event, Dr. Phil gives advice on letting go of the past. "Refocus on what did go right that day," he says. "You did stand up in church. You did make a covenant before God to be life partners. A lot of wonderful things flowed from that." So if your bridesmaid was a no show or your wedding cake was stale, try to concentrate more on the good things.

As a side note I wonder if his staff can create before and after photos of the Bridezilla transformation for brides like they did with the family of crack addicts. This is you before crack, on crack, five years on crack, etc... This is you engaged, now Bridezilla, this is you left at the alter friendless... you get my drift.