Question! Part 2

I agree with Vicky that it's probably okay to wear a dress that's the same as the wedding colors. Neutral colors like chocolate have surely been worn to weddings with the same color scheme before. Just make sure you don't look like a bridesmaid!

If you know the wedding is, say, chocolate and turquoise, then accessorize with any color other than turquoise. Or see if the chocolate colored dress you want is available in a print that uses chocolate and another color.

If you're confident you're looking your best and not self-conscious about the wedding colors, then probably no one will notice or care.

Now, I question chocolate as an August wedding color because I'm picturing lots of melting stickiness, but that's neither here nor there.

Question!

Hi there Stephanie and Vicky,

I have a wedding question for you. I'm attending a wedding at the end
of the month. Each of the three dresses that I love (I've looked, not
purchased yet) are chocolate. The wedding colors include chocolate.
Is it bad form to wear one of the wedding colors?

Thanks!
Candi

It's Vicky here. I'll be answering the question and then Stephanie will add her opinion as well.

Candi,

My first thought is -what time of day is the wedding? Is it indoors or outside? Darker colors, like a chocolate brown, tend to be more formal. What type of fabric are these dresses that you are looking at? These things need to be considered and may help you make a better decision. It is not bad form to wear the colors of the wedding because one cannot possibly gauge what those colors will be. It's only bad form if you show up in white, in sequins to a daytime wedding, or wearing the actual bridesmaid dress when you are in fact, ahem... not a bridesmaid.

Hope this helps!

Steph - You are up!

It's A Family Affair

My mother isn't involved in the wedding planning process at all. I don't plan on getting married again so I want her to be part of it this time around but she really doesn't seem interested at all. I end up feeling let down and hurt most of the time which is NOT how I want this whole thing to go. Help!

Fear not, I am familiar with this syndrome! Most people have overly involved mothers and right now you are probably wishing for even a smidgen of that attention right?

Let me ask you this. Do you call your mother and ask her to participate? When you picked out your dress or have a fitting have you asked her to be present for it? If not, then first try that! You might be surprised. She might be the type of person who actually wants you to do things your way and not get overly involved. Refreshing for most readers I'm sure.

If that isn't the case and you have already done that simple task then write her a letter, take her to lunch, or again call her and explain (in a non-whiney "this is my day!" voice that I know you have) how important it is to you that she be part of this one-time process. Tell her you love her and want her with you during parts of it. She doesn't have to be duct-taped to your side. Give her specific areas you would like her advice telling her how much you value her opinion in those areas. Maybe she loves china? Ask her for help there! Does she like flowers or arranging them? Then she'd be great in that department. In the end I bet she comes around and will be glad to help. Chances are she just didn't want to be the Mother of Bridezilla that is often depicted these days.